I just got the 1st issue of Reader's Digest, (a great friend of mine, from Detroit, arranged a subscription for my family, THANKS AGAIN!!)
In the 1st few pages of reading, I bumped into the "React" page where people have a chance to put in their 2 cents regarding previously published articles.
This one was about fights in marriages, and "the good and bad about it"(or something like that, the whole original article is not reprinted)
Anyway, what cought my attention, and that I just have to share, is what this older gentleman wrote:
"Why should there be fights in every marriage? I've been married for 60 years, and I know something about having a good relationship with a wife. When we have a disagreement, I stop and think, Is this something that is important? If it's not, I let it pass. If it is, a little reasoning, and the matter is done - without a fight. The result: We get along just fine with love and kisses"
Awwww.... isn't that lovely! I can see why this man has been happily married for 60 years!
It starts with a good heart, and a wish to make the other person happy.
Not "to win" fights.
If you really love someone from the heart, what satisfaction do you get from "winning" anyway?
Maybe there'll be a short term gain, you got what YOU wanted.... But when you know that it didn't benefit your spouse, how much can you enjoy what you got out of it?
Of course there are times that we need to compromise.
But if we start by making sure that we have listened, and made sure that the OTHER one is happy 1st...
And this works both ways... How much more enjoyable pretty much everything in your life will be!
"Arguing is not a matter of winning or losing. Winning at the expence of love and respect is not a solution. The solution is forgiveness"
Another persons comment on the same article.
Both were men! Interesting, huh??
Well. Before I sign off I have to share some great news!!!
This made my whole life so bright and happy, and again I know that we have a rich Father in Heaven.
A while ago I wrote a blog about having faith. I told you about a family, who we are close to, who due to jobloss ended up losing their house.
They had their 12th baby back in September, and this little girl has already made their lives even happier.
Around the same time the husband got a job, that he now loves!!
Well... they have been living with her parents since June, but now she wrote to tell me that they've found a house!!!
I have to mention that they were turned down a few times as renters, due to their family's size.
Well... God had something better prepared for them.
They now have a contract on a "lease to own" house.
This house is situated on 4 beautiful acres, the last house on a private dirt road. It has 6 bedrooms, 5 baths, a 2½ car garage AND a barn! It has been totally remodelled in a way this dear friend of mine loves...
"This house is perfect for our family!", she wrote to me.
These news put a huge grin on my face. And tears of joy and thankfulness in my eyes...
(they'll move in in time for Christmas btw!!)
When we doubt, and wonder if God has forgotten us, but we still know that the only way for things to work out is to put things in his hands... He works wonders.
I have said for a while now that "it's this family's turn" to have something really good happen to them.
Well, many sighs and prayers have been answered.
Good luck with your new home dear friends, you deserve this so much!! May God bless the house and your whole family!